Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Beginning Armchair Mystic

My sister began her vacation two weeks ago by unceremoniously dumping five books on my lap. They are all books dealing with contemplative prayer and modern Christian mystics. I began
Armchair Mystic: Easing into Contemplative Prayer last night. The foreword has this Thomas Merton quote:
"Prayer is an expression of who we are…. We are a living incompleteness. We are a gap, an emptiness that calls for fulfillment."

I like the idea that we can be and indeed are completed by communication with God. I look forward to reading all five of these books and will post reviews of them all.

Monday, August 3, 2009

Marriage Schmarriage

Interesting post, this. The heart of the matter:


The answer is pretty straightforward: While our sexual ideals have remained biblical and thus rooted in marriage, our ideas about marriage have changed significantly. For all the heated talk and contested referendums about defending marriage against attempts to legally redefine it, the church has already ceded plenty of intellectual ground in its marriage-mindedness. Christian practical ethics about marriage—not the ones expounded on in books, but the ones we actually exhibit—have become a nebulous hodgepodge of pragmatic norms and romantic imperatives, few of which resemble anything biblical.


Unfortunately, many Christians cannot tell the difference. Much about evangelical marital ethics is at bottom therapeutic: since we are pro-family, we are sure that a happy marriage is a central source of human contentment, and that romantic love is the key gauge of its health. While our marriage covenants are strengthened by romance, the latter has no particular loyalty to the former.


Our personal feelings may lead us out of a marriage as quickly as they lead us into one. As a result, many of us think about marriage much like those outside the church—as a capstone that completes the life of the autonomous self. We claim to be better promise keepers, but our vision of what marriage means is not all that unique. When did this all change?"

If one accepts the premise that the church has a marital problem and the premarital sex problem is simply a side effect/symptom, then the obvious question is what can the church do to recapture (or capture?) the biblical view of marriage?

The first problem with this question is what exactly is a biblical view of marriage? We have some diverse models from the OT (Abraham and Sarah, Samson and Delilah) and scant instruction from the NT (love your wife and respect your husband, and the concept of submission). Even our Christian marriage books seem to be largely in agreement with our secular marriage books. Question: "What is the most essential thing to maintain a good marriage?" Answer: (all together now) "GOOD COMMUNICATION".


Secondly, one can hardly doubt that marriage is held as the model for much of the American churches. The church today is built around marriage and families. As Mark Regnerus cites in the article most American do want to get married and I would add that probably 100% of those singles sitting in the church pews each Sunday want to get married. So given the facts that most people want to get married and churches strongly encourage people to get married, why are people remaining single for longer?


Talk to almost any Christian girl and you will begin to hear a common refrain "Most guys are just so immature". I don't often get the chance to talk to Christian young men about why they're not married - so I called one up and asked the question. The answer I got was surprisingly similar to the answer that girls give, the prevalence of emotional and intellectual immaturity and insecurity issues among the Christian young women of his acquaintance.


It seems to me the church has a huge marital problem and the pink elephant in the room is divorce. By failing to take on the problem of divorce, in any meaningful way, the church has ceded its credibility on the whole topic of marriage in many (young) peoples eyes. If the church was to begin to work on divorce by 1) Not marrying anyone who has been divorced for non-scriptural reasons (real adultery) and 2)revoking membership for any non-scriptural divorce, it might regain some of its integrity in the whole gay marriage debate and encouragement of young people to get married.


What seems bizarre to me is that in the comments section of the article there are actually parents saying they would rather have their children have pre-marital sex than get married early (to a "wrong" person I presume). While I am sympathetic to this view, if this isn't a perfect example of how far we've strayed from the biblical view of marriage and sex I don't know what is.


What can the church do to encourage a biblical view of marriage among the young men and women of Gen Y and beyond?

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Last Words worth saying

"I have loved justice and hated iniquity, therefore I die in exile"

--Pope Gregory VII

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Happy Anniversary

Simeon and I celebrate 9 years today! As an anniversary present, he arranged to have 1A - 1E fail resoundingly and 1F sail through with flying colors. I could not have given myself a better gift.

Saturday, May 16, 2009

What will your story be?

"Like it or not, we are heirs of this host of diverse and contradictory witnesses. Some of their actions we may find revolting, and others inspiring. ... Without understanding that past, we are unable to understand ourselves, for in a sense the past still lives in us and influences who we are and how we understand the Christian message. When we read, for instance, that “the just shall live by faith,” Martin Luther is whispering at our ear how we are to interpret those words—and this is true even for those of us who have never even heard of Martin Luther. When we hear that “Christ died for our sins,” Anselm of Canterbury sits in the pew with us, even though we may not have the slightest idea who Anselm was. When we stand, sit, or kneel in church, when we sing a hymn, recite a creed, or refuse to recite one, when we build a church or preach a sermon, as past of which we may not be aware is one of the factors involved in our actions. The notion that we read the New Testament exactly as the early Christians did, without any weight of tradition coloring our interpretation, is an illusion. It is also a dangerous illusion, for it tends to absolutize our interpretation, confusing it with the Word of God."




The previous paragraph is found in the introduction to The Story of Christianity by Justo L. Gonzalez. I love this paragraph not only because it expresses my thoughts, but it does so beautifully. This book is a very straightforward overview of Christianity from the time of Christ to modern day (1970s or so). It discusses the major figures in Christian history, traces the development of the church and rarely speculates (a very nice feature) it just gives the information available. I just finished reading about John of Constantinople or John Chrysostom -- if you don't know who he is you should definitely read this book.


On my wish list: that the Protestant/Evangelical/Pentacostal churches would start the catechism-like classes in the year prior to baptism - just as the early church did and the Catholic church still does. Off the top of my head here's my list of positive's and negative's to this idea.

Positive side:

it would give everyone the opportunity for a baseline of knowledge, a basic christianity if you will.

They would not come out with just basic doctrinal knowledge, but also a sketch of their history as well.

Postive/Negative:

It would raise the bar to become a christian (I'm sure some would see this as a negative, others a positive)

Negative:

It would delay baptism up to a year - the classes wouldn't really need to be a year, but neither would I like to see them be 6 week classes either.

It goes against the spontaneous feel of baptism, indeed most of our christian life today is seen as authentic if it is spontaneous (although I doubt people want their ministers to stop studying before a sermon).

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Lines God wishes He could use

Setting: Final Judgment - not to pick on Carrie Prejean or anything, she has many fine qualities


God: What made you think it was a good idea to pose topless?

CP: It didn't seem like a big deal and you have to do it to get ahead in the business and everyone else was doing it too.

God: Well, everyone else is going to Hell....

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Test

Nothing like fiddling while Rome is burning.